Successful dates take work. They also take time and commitment. So it’s easy to see why so many men fall victim to these common mistakes. They want to rush things along, see whether there’s a real connection without putting the time and effort into it. But trying to fast-forward things isn’t the only common mistake we all make. Here are a few that you’ll want to watch out for:
1: Failing to Appear Interested
Sometimes guys can come off as oblivious or simply uninterested, even when they’re really trying to be attentive. It’s something many of us have to watch out for because it’s easy to put out signals that we’re not that into her, even when we are.
So, pay attention to both your physical and verbal signals. Make eye contact, nod when you agree with what she’s saying, lean in closer to show you’re thoroughly engaged.
Don’t let your nerves get in the way. I know, easier said than done but sometimes the general awkwardness of dating can give off the vibe that you aren’t attracted to her when in reality it’s the fact you are attracted that’s causing you to have the jitters.
So try to keep as calm, cool and collected as possible.
2: Don’t Play Hard to Get
No one likes head games and any woman worth having isn’t going to give you the time of day if you act as though you aren’t that into her. Coming off as nonchalant will only hurt your chances of finding a meaningful connection so leave the games at home in the Rec room where they belong.
3: Leave your Phone Behind
I know, your phone is probably your lifeline or security especially if you need to be available for personal calls from kids or family but if at all possible, leave your phone behind. Even if that means tucked securely away in the glove box of your car. She’ll appreciate the fact you are doing everything possible to give her your full attention.
4: Avoid the 3 Topic No-No’s
When you’re just getting to know someone, you want to avoid as many touchy subjects as possible. This includes religion, politics, and sex (and in some cases, money). Stick to safe topics that won’t leave either of you
uncomfortable or defending your position.
5: Making a big deal about who pays the bill! This is a common one and you really want to avoid it because not only could it come across as arrogant but it can just make things really awkward and uncomfortable. If she insists on going Dutch, let it happen. At the same time if she expects you to pay, do it. Don’t get off on the wrong foot by arguing over something that really shouldn’t matter.
That’s it for today. In tomorrow’s post, I’ll share a few dating tips for those of you who are starting out online.